In Too Deep!!!!

This started off as a poem but it became a story of sorts told from a man's point of view. I wanted to write this as a dude who is a player that has met his match...I've seen/heard/read different things from guys so I can honestly say that some dudes are really like this...but there is always hope as seen in this story...enjoy!


She was the girl that I wasn't supposed to have
the "Goody two shoes" who only had sex when she was in a "commited relationship"
she could spot game from a mile away and shut me down in a second
She's got walls put up..might as well give up...her girls would laugh and repeatedly tell me


Truth be told her friends wanted me to penetrate their walls
they had heard about "The Legend" concealed inside my calvin klein boxer briefs
they wanted to be the one that would put it on me in such a way
that I'd forget all about talking to her and fall in love with her best friend...well friends!


Women play the game better than we do and most would have fallen in the trap
I have seen it done before so I make sure that I don't step in
before I fuck and leave them they know that this is a momentary pleasure
and no matter how good I made them feel they could not come back for seconds


Don't get me wrong all of them were sexy as fuck I only mess with dimes
They all had full lips and fat asses and knew how to work both so well
I always made sure they left satisfied and beat my name on their walls
so whoever decided to hit after me could not fill the space I left in their hole I mean soul hahahaha


So getting at goody two shoes chick wasn't gonna be much of a problem
I would just have to try a little harder this time around
I love challenges haven't had one since I was a freshman in high school
and started sucking up and then fucking my Spanish teacher so I could change my D to an A


I would approach her and tell her I wanted to be her friend
cause I know many dudes try to get at her on a daily basis
I'd get her number and talk to her for an hour or so
and tell her that she could be the one that could change my life around


How her friends (yup the same best friends that tried to smash) told me she was a good girl
and how that's rare in a world full of jump offs and tricks
When I am ready to settle down she would be the one I would wanna commit to
fall in love with get married and have like 5 kids and live the "American Dream"


Speaking of dreams I'd tell her how I dreamed of waking up next to her every morning
and how I wanted to fall asleep next to her holding her close to my chest
I'd make love to her like those men in erotic novels do
and have her sweating shaking and screaming til she finally succumbed to the pleasure


Gotta sweet talk the ladies before you experience their sweetness
only a whore would let a dude hit it the first night
That's way too easy its like sleeping with a hooker for free
Who knows how many dudes she let fuck her effortlessly!


After having sex with her if it was good I'd stay around for a month or so
however long it takes me to move on to my next challenge
If it was wack I'd stop all contact with her
and if she doesn't get the point I'd change my number


Yeah I know I sound grimy as hell
but I'm keeping it real with yall so you can see how fucked up I was
goody two shoes switched it up on me
now I'm half crazy trying to figure out where I went wrong!


I called her and I was surprised by her intelligence and wit
and ended up talking on the phone for hours
She laughed at my fool proof lines
and came back with a few of her own

She said "Awww sweetie u are too much...I know Angel and Tamara all wanna fuck you
I think Angel already has even though she hasn't told me
I see the way she looks at you
and the way you dismiss her like she's discarded trash"

I know you are used to getting your way and the fact that I didn't fall at your feet surprised the hell outta you
Last time I checked there hasn't been a perfect man that walked this earth since Jesus
and he didn't rock gucci cologne and true religion jeans

What I'm tryna say is that you can't play me sweetie
I don't want a man like you in my life
Getting what you want based off your appearance can only work for so long
but when you're old,gray and alone 40 years from now then what are you gonna do?

You can wrap shit up in the most expensive box
and put your gucci cologne inside to disguise the scent
when all of the wrapping is peeled off and the box is open there is still shit inside
and it will be put in its proper place..the porcelain toilet bowl!

You are not a good person on the inside
you need to meditate and reevaluate your life decisions
maybe your mom was a woman who was easily manipulated
and you treated future women the same way

Maybe some girl broke your heart and you blocked your heart from love
and picked up and discarded women just as she did to you
You need to pray because you are in a sad place right now
and only the Lord can help you through this

By the end of the convo I was shellshocked
even after she hung up I held my blackberry to my ear and just sat there
I knew right then that I had met my match
and for the first time I gave up and lost the game

I tried calling/texting/emailing/facebooking/tweeting her
but she igged me every chance she got
I found out from Tamara(Angel wasn't talking to me) that she liked pink roses
so I had them sent to her class, job and house

3 months went by and still no response
and each day I found myself going crazy
Her face is the last thing I think about when I go to sleep at night
and the first thing I wake up to every morning

It's crazy because I feel like a changed man now
started praying and staying away from temptation
I still bought gucci cologne and true religion jeans
but they were for the teenage boy I started mentoring

One day I came home and I found a note attached to the door
when I saw it was from HER I almost broke my phone
I sat down not knowing what she had to say to me
just hoped it wasn't any kind of restraining order!

The note said "Hey there thanks for all of the messages flowers and cards you have sent 
they meant a lot to me and made me smile
i've heard that you changed for the better and im glad
couldn't be a player forever right?

If this had been a few months before we met maybe things would be different
But I am engaged and plan on marrying the love of my life next year
I know this may hurt but don't remain bitter but better
and know that you have truly touched my heart"

A tear escaped my eye but I brushed it away
I wasted so much time playing a game that had no valuable prize
the women who were consolation gifts weren't worth my time
and the grand prize has been taken by someone else

I know now that if I ever meet a Ms Right ever again
I won't block my heart trying to be Mr Cool
Otherwise I'll end up in the same exact situation
I waited too late to change and now I'm in too deep

Reasons, seasons and puzzle pieces

It's been a month since I've written on here but I feel like I have wasted so much time worrying about unimportant things such as the subject in my last blog. I cut things off with him but its so hard to not be mad at myself. I am a smart woman I know when I am not getting what I deserve but I still wasted my time hoping that things would change but knowing deep inside that they wouldn't. I just wanted some attention. I wanted the comfort of another person to reassure me that I was as beautiful and special that I'm told I should feel everyday just because there is no one else like me in this world. I know that all of this has to come from within but its hard when I have never been a person that's always believed in myself and what I am capable of doing. It's taken much effort to get to this point in my life where I'm taking chances as far as following my dreams and not caring what other people think of me when I do. So for me to not care what another guy thinks especially one that I have been involved with and have to see everyday b/c he's my neighbor is damn near impossible. I know it can be done and time heals all wounds and even though this wound isn't deep it still hurts....It's more like a papercut that's annoying the hell outta me. I wish I could think and feel the way a man does. Instead of analyzing my emotions just let them be and moving on if things don't work my way. People prey on weakness and I know that if I want to be successful in life, I can't let every little thing affect the way I think, feel and act. Especially not a person who was never meant to stay in my life forever. If something doesn't feel right then it usually isn't and instead of trying to fight that feeling in order to have momentary comfort I need to embrace it and get myself out of that situation. For now I am going to focus on me and what makes me happy. Instread of chasing love I will be chasing success and following my dreams. If someone comes along that works within those plans that's great. I refuse to take steps backward in order to accomodate someone else. It's like trying to put a puzzle piece in that doesn't fit...the picture is not complete and you have just wasted your time and energy trying to make it work. I am finally going to live for me and whether I fail or succeed I know that for once my heart will be in the right place giving my all to the right person...me!

Heart vs Mind

For so long I have been trying to work on myself. I was always over critical of myself and tried to change everything from my look to my outlook on life. I have realized though that I am not always the problem. The problem is staring at me right in front of my face and instead of dealing with it and getting it out of my life I try to make excuses and figure out if I am the one that is the cause of the issue. I have been talking to this guy since December. Nothing has changed since the beginning of whatever you wanna call this situation. It's not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship because we are not committed to each other. He is content with the way things are and feels that I overreact about everything. There's no sign that things will change or improve and I don't even feel like we're friends because he isn't open with me like I have been with him. The sex is horrible on my end because he isn't willing to do certain things to make it more pleasurable and exciting for me and I'm wondering why am I even putting up with this mess? I have been trying to fix something that I haven't broken. He is the problem so why am I suffering because of it? I let my heart make decisions instead of my mind. The heart doesn't think logically. The heart wants so much to be in love and have companionship that it ignores the common sense the mind tells it and tries to make everything better. The heart gives hope that does not exist and I need to stop letting my heart and want for companionship control my mind and distract me from all that I want to do. One of my closest male friends told me that women are the ones in control. We control if we want to deal with another man. We control how fast the relationship goes and if we want to have sex.  My heart gave this guy the control and my mind has been suffering because of it. I refuse to let another day go by complaining about him and what he doesn't do for me. No ring or real commitment exists in this situation so I am free to do what I please. My mind has bigger and better things in store and I refuse to let my heart come in the way of that. One day when I meet a man that stimulates my mind and body equally then and only then will I let my heart back in the picture. Until that time comes I am going to focus on me and all of my dreams and aspirations. Life is full of twists and turns but as long as I know that I am great the way I am and that every problem that I encounter is not for me to solve I will be a stronger, more independent person. Graduating college, The Angielala Experience and getting my license (I know I should have gotten it already but nerves have gotten in the way!) are my 3 immediate goals and I won't stop even after I accomplish those goals because I have so much I want to do! I refuse to let another person distract me and make me lose my focus. I am ready for all the good and the bad that will come my way while I rise to the top. My mind will lead the way and maybe one day  my heart will be ready for another journey of its own! 

Try again

I had a convo with my ex who is finally ready to settle down and be in a relationship(or so he says) I don't know whether to believe him b/c it just may be a way to reel me back in...I figured time will tell if he's sincere but I also had to reflect on our past b4 I even consider going there with him again...and this is what inspired my poem called "Try Again"


We both cried when I had to end whatever it was we had
You cried b/c you didn't want me to leave I cried b/c I knew I had to
I had to leave you in order to grow and become stronger mentally
Your love had me hypnotized and bound to the point where my soul was suffocating


You never hit me but every time we got into it I felt like I had been sucker punched
You always told me you loved me but your actions never showed it
I never asked you for anything but you wanted me to give you the world
No matter how hard I tried I came up short of your expectations


I was too dependent on others but yet I let you roam free
I was too weak but for a long time I had the strength to put up with your infidelities
I was too insecure about the way I looked but I made you feel like a superstar
What I was I have never been ever since I lost you and found myself


I let Keyshia and Brandy express my misery until I cried myself to sleep
I wanted to write love songs but at times the pain was too much to bear
I would start but could not finish when the tears would blur my vision 
the ink would run off the paper and destroy everything that came from deep inside


Finally I reached my breaking point and decided that I was done
I could no longer be a mental punching bag that you take your daily frustrations out on
You took me for granted but I know that karma is a bitch
And she came back around and hurt you more than I ever could


You've reached a point in your life where you are finally able to handle all I have to offer
but unlike before I refuse to give my heart away so easily
The tables have turned and now I run the show
You can try again but know that with or without you I will be alright

Love Songs

I was listening to my itouch and I'm hearing men like Brian McKnight and Usher sing love songs and I'm thinking to myself why is it that the only men that are in touch with their  emotional side are R&B singers and they are mainly singing love songs for profit esp since they can be the biggest whores out there but we still fall in love with the mushy stuff they sing about! That's what inspired this poem called Love Songs lemme know what u think!


Dreamlover why can't you sing me to sleep at night?
Hold me tight and call me your baby?
Even if I was taken you wouldn't give up
Tyrese didn't for his "Sweet Lady"


Tell me that I'm your cherie amor your one and only
Even Stevie saw true love when it was laid before his eyes
I am tired of the heartbreak and betrayal
I am sick of the deception and lies


Trey Songz didn't wanna leave his girl 
but the time came that he had to go
At least he told her he would be back
When you leave dreamlover I never know


You disappeared and left me wondering
 Now our love is hanging on a ledge
What happened to the promise you made you didn't say goodbye
The pain in my heart hurts more than a knife with a Jagged Edge


This is time for my last cry I wanna leave it all behind me
I wonder if Brian McKnight ever felt pain like this
Usher talked about letting it Burn even if its bruises
but in your absence all I can do is reminisce


Everyone tells me that my soulmate is out there somewhere
but I think that they have it all wrong
My dreamlover is out there but sadly
he only exists in love songs

Secrets

This poem was inspired by someone that I really like but I feel that there is so much more about him that I don't know and it drives me crazy...I call this one Secrets

The mystery that surrounds him keeps me intrigued

His secrets are locked away deep inside

I know there is so much that he wants to say

but he'd rather keep it to himself than tell lies

I want to find out more about this man

what his passions are and what makes him come to life

His pain is etched into his eyes when he finally speaks

I wish he would talk about the struggles and the strife

I would like for him to tell me his dreams and aspirations

and know that anything shared between us is confidential

For us to grow together and become closer

these things are not just wanted they are essential

Patience is a virtue that I wish I possess

but I will have to find some type of endurance when dealing with this situation

I feel comfortable enough around him to tell him my soul

but when its his turn to talk he remains in deep contemplation

I am not sure where this relationship will lead

but I know he will have to be ready to unlock his heart and throw away the key

Someone has to find it sooner or later

and I hope that person is me

Awake and aware!

It's 6:40am and I am wide awake! Anyone that knows me knows that I am definitely not a morning person but for some reason I am up and in a good mood! I went to sleep early yesterday because I was in a bad mood. Things weren't going my way and it seemed like I was on the defensive all day and I hate feeling that I have to explain myself and my actions. I was irritated and moody so I decided to go to bed early and I woke up an hour ago feeling great!!! I have had time to think about things and I've realized that all of my life I have been a people pleaser. I was never the person that had beef with others b/c I was seen as a sweetheart. I accepted that but when people, men in particular, felt that they could say or do anything and get away with it I decided that I needed to change. First it started with me being honest with myself and others. Then it escalated into doing what I wanted to do instead of worrying about what others think now its to the point where I can't doubt myself or my actions after all is said and done. Not everyone will agree with you and your decisions but as long as you follow your heart then there is no point in having any regrets. Everything happens for a reason and all of the choices I've made have brought me this far and I refuse to turn back...I guess a good night's sleep does a body(and mind)right!

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2010=being honest with myself and others

Anyone that knows me knows that I am always worried about others feelings. I am very nice too nice at times and for a long time I felt that was the way to face people and make friends in this world. I have finally realized that no matter how nice you can come across not everyone will like you. People will always find something negative to say about/to you especially if they see that you are in a good space in your life. Lying to spare others feelings only hurts them in the end so my new year's resolution for 2010 is to be honest...I never considered myself a liar and honesty is up there on my list of qualities I look for in the opposite sex but I am not always truthful when it comes to what I really want out of life. I worried about others opinions and feelings so much that in turn it was my life that I wasn't happy with. All of the important people in my life always kept it real with me no matter how much it hurt so why can't I do the same? I have never been a blunt person but there are times when bluntness is necessary. At the same time when dealing with certain people you have to have different approaches but as long as the truth is out there then I will be satisfied. I have heard the saying "The truth shall set you free." time and time again but never pondered the real meaning behind its words until now. Being truthful to others in turn helps me to be true to myself and get to where I want to be in life. No regrets just happiness and ultimately free from many of life's burdens. This is going to be a challenge but nothing worth having comes easy! So tell me what you think about this post and I will be as honest as I hope you are in my reply!!!